not sure how to handle this

[Tallboy]

Then when she gets back, stick her keys in the frame warmer for 10 minutes, and give her the ol' spicy keychain
http://41.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6...o1_r1_1280.jpg

[Chad Sobodash]

Then when she gets back, stick her keys in the frame warmer for 10 minutes, and give her the ol' spicy keychain
http://41.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6...o1_r1_1280.jpg

Having seen this elsewhere, the last place I'd expect to see this reposted is on OptiBoard. You're awesome.

[HindSight2020]

There are two separate issues here and always two sides to the story (no offense). First, regarding the credits; if the owner doesn't seem overly concerned that there's potentially a few grand out of his or her pocket, then I wouldn't be concerned about it. An owner that doesn't care about their bottom line most likely doesn't give a grass tootsie roll about the rest of the business operations.

Secondly, if there that is that much friction between employees, there's an underlying nugget in there somewhere as to the cause. Perhaps, your skills and efforts are much better than hers and she feels threatened by you instead of embracing and utilizing your talents to her advantage (minus moving the futon)?

Perhaps she's just cranky miserable hag and hates the world? Perhaps your boss has moved the futon? Maybe she is bipolar and has mental issues? Maybe her life just sucks in general? The fact you took the time to write a personal letter and send her flowers makes me a little bit suspicious though. I've been there and yes, I certainly slept in the futon but not try to move it.

Either way, it all comes back to the owner - he needs to step up and be an owner. If he's not willing to do this, update your CV and take your skills somewhere else that will appreciate your efforts and reward you accordingly.

[Chris Ryser]

An interesting dynamic is at play here. On a long term basis we have two employees each holding the other hostage. Whoever owns this abortion of a business has tolerated some infantile behavior for far too long and should replace you both. A business doesn't need this crap.

Do your credits on your own time and let them know about it, how much you saved them. Give them notice at the same time that you will change employer before she comes back.

If you are such a valuable employee they will try to keep you on your conditions.

As an employer I would bend backwards to keep a good one, and there would be a conflict between two good ones I would do my o utmost to settle it.

[MakeOptics]

Attaboy!

So, i took the day and processed all the credits. Put it in a spreadsheet and realized I was holding 3k + hostage over this. I would have fired me. It's done and unfortunately I have the feeling nothing will change. I did polish up my resume =) The GM wants to "wait and see" what happens when she comes back.

Something did change, you became a team player. Now try an encourage this in the rest of the office and work with others eve when you have reason not to. Eventually the thorn becomes too evident to ignore, even if they don't you still nurture a good habit in your skill set that will be valuable to your next employer if that's what's in the cards. In the end you can only make yourself better and hope others see you as an example and follow suit. In the unlikely (or likely) event that things don't work out your still a better optician for it, that's worth every bit of effort you put out.

[chaoticneutral]

rt

[Rockstargazer]

I must say people never cease to amaze me in how childish and retarded they can act. The way I see this not only do you have a problem in that woman who refuses to communicate with you, you also have a problem with your GM. Not you being the problem, the GM being the problem. Any manager worth their chops would take this situation seriously and deal with it. Not take a wait and see attitude. Now I'm making these assumptions based on your narrative only and if things are truly as you have described, RUN don't walk out the door to your next job interview and if it is a good opportunity- TAKE THE JOB. I can tell you right now, as soon as this woman returns to the office, you're going to be the bad guy for saving the day and her precious lab. Or worse everything you did screwed everything else up!!! And poor thing had to toil on her hands and knees to fix the mess you made. Do you see how this is a NO WIN situation for you. Your GM should realize you are more than capable of doing her job without all the drama and hostility, and seize the opportunity to make some personnel changes. Demote her, lay her off, terminate her- something- but I don't see that a happenin my friend. Your employer has and will continue to allow one employee to create a hostile work environment. That's unacceptable and you need to draw your line in the sand and find a workplace that you can flourish and grow with. Your dreaming if you think anything will change and if you do nothing then you become just as much a part of the problem rather than the solution. You'll end up resentful after she returns because she'll throw you under the bus and nobody will stand up for you. Life sucks but I say, "You teach people how they can treat you......" And from my vantage point you haven't been a very good teacher.. I may sound harsh but I've dealt with her kind but worse. Some people are broken beyond repair, some are just pure evil. It is your life, and you must take control of things. Personally when I encounter someone with that level of toxicity, I surgically remove them from my life. The cut is quick, clean and painless. Good Luck my friend. (Not everyone is like her, you'll see.) Rockstargazer

[chaoticneutral]

just an update. Shes back. Im still in the lab and she is on the floor. We had a meeting with the GM and operations manager. The jist of it is I did a great job and get to stay in the lab for a while she is on the floor for 2 months. From my perspective, I went into this meeting with no expectations and so, all of my expectations were met. I was given an excellent peice of advice from the GM. Do not judge each other, thats how we started down a very dark path. Hes right. I will no longer judge lest I be judged, nor will I cast stones. I will clock in, work where im told to and do my best and then clock out. It was satisfying when she, the lab manager said "thanks for holding down the fort." After not talking to me for now 8 months I suppose it's better then nothing. After all bad love is better then no love at all right? Thanks for all of the advice and support!

[Johns]

I'm not a "clock in/clock out" type of person. I need more than a paycheck from my job. I'd walk...

[ziggy]

I'm not a "clock in/clock out" type of person. I need more than a paycheck from my job. I'd walk...

Ditto!! My dad always said there was an income to Bull Sh!t ratio. Sometimes the income is not enough to put up with the BS. Good luck

[pseudonym]

Whatever is going on, this is a toxic workplace. The kind of place that causes nightmares, heart attacks, and general life dissatisfaction. Sending flowers to someone who steadfastly refuses to talk to you is strange. Someone needs to get out now.

[Dirk]

Dear chaoticneutral,

I don`t know you, nor I presume to. But you seem a nice person who only wants to do a good job. Your problem has not been solved, sooner or later it will resurface in new and unexpected ways.
Your situation sounds like a experience I had some while ago. I don`t work there anymore, because after endless debates the root cause of my frustration did not disappear. It took me a while to accept this, I felt loyal to my boss, my colleagues, my customers and it felt as a personal failure. Every evening I complained about it at home, and I became increasingly cynical at work. It is very tiring, to yourself and to others.
I hope that you will realize this sooner than I did.