Why are some of the responses Rude?

[pinto]

I just read the previous thread by deecoco (Lensometer) and have similar experiences about receiving rude comments to basic questions. This forum is a great source of information and most of the respondents are very helpful, but there appear to be are some very unhappy people in this field. So much so they can not exercise common courtesy when responding to a question from some one who may not know it all.

I realize that some of the questions asked have been answered before, but for new members searching for previous questions does not always offer complete answers. I have for the most part stop asking questions and don't even use the forum as much because of all the negative comments. And since when do you need to have a "thick skin" to participate. Why can't questions be answered in a civil manner?

I debated whether to post this or not, but after reading the thread from deecoco I felt compelled to do so. For all of you who offer advise and can do it without being rude, thank you. For those of you that can't, you should'nt respond at all.

[cocoisland58]

Pinto, sometimes the anonimity of message boards allow for behavior one wouldn't display in a one on one conversation. It is easy to be sarcastic and some people are better at it then others. Also if you have been in this business long enough you develop a thick skin. Opticians can be a rude bunch. Don't let comments get to you or better yet let them have it back if you will. It really helps to have a sense of humor which is sadly lacking in some people. By and large this is a helpful and intelligent group.

[gemstone]

Please forgive me. I responded to a question sincerly as I could. I missunderstood the question. Cosiland is correct that I would not be so rude face to face. Thing is I would not be rude here either. Read the intire thread to begin with. That would help. Also sometimes the type seems cold. I promise I will try to improve on this. :hammer:

[Johns]

Some of us are all smart(aces;) ) at heart, and we tend to reply with the first thing that pops into our heads. I think that the more you post, the more you realize that your words are lingering in cyberspace, and you tend to take a little more time in thinking out your responses.

Hey, we're all one big happy family! At times we're one big dysfunctional family. Sometimes we leave in a huff, but we are always welcomed back, no questions asked.


Try THAT at home!

[Ladyoptician]

I just read the previous thread by deecoco (Lensometer) and have similar experiences about receiving rude comments to basic questions. This forum is a great source of information and most of the respondents are very helpful, but there appear to be are some very unhappy people in this field. So much so they can not exercise common courtesy when responding to a question from some one who may not know it all.

I realize that some of the questions asked have been answered before, but for new members searching for previous questions does not always offer complete answers. I have for the most part stop asking questions and don't even use the forum as much because of all the negative comments. And since when do you need to have a "thick skin" to participate. Why can't questions be answered in a civil manner?

I debated whether to post this or not, but after reading the thread from deecoco I felt compelled to do so. For all of you who offer advise and can do it without being rude, thank you. For those of you that can't, you should'nt respond at all.


I think a lot of people on this board feel strongly about the devaluing of our profession and when someone posts something that indicates a lack of experience or education, some go on defense. I, like you, debate many times over what I want to post for fear of repercussion, even after being in this business for some 9 years, being licensed in my state and being NCLE certified, there are still things that I have not had experience with and like to get input from these wise folks. I choose my words carefully. Although, I feel I know where the defensiveness is derived, I wish people would come across more gently with there words because all of these wise people were once in the shoes of the posters, just looking to soak up any help or education they could find. It is sad that our profession doesn't have a decent nationally recognized guideline set out before anyone could dispense, sell, or fit a pair of eyeglasses, but the truth is there isn't and we should embrace the future opticians that come in here looking for help because it might be the trigger for them to really persue formal education and become well seasoned! It takes interest and effort to come in here and post and I think we should all respect that effort!!!

[deecoco]

haha they're not rude anymore!...they have all been edited:confused: go figure!

[Johns]

haha they're not rude anymore!...they have all been edited:confused: go figure!

Wow! Now that's impressive.

Only nine posts, and you've already had a huge impact!
:cheers:

Welcome to the Board!

[Ladyoptician]

haha they're not rude anymore!...they have all been edited:confused: go figure!


I saw that and laughed my butt off, while shaking my head!!!:hammer:

Don't let it shake you! There is too much wealth of information in this one place than any I have ever seen! I can't tell you how much I have learned here and wish it would have been here all those years ago when I was getting licensed!!

[gemstone]

Please forgive me. I responded to a question sincerly as I could. I missunderstood the question. Cosiland is correct that I would not be so rude face to face. Thing is I would not be rude here either. Read the intire thread to begin with. That would help. Also sometimes the type seems cold. I promise I will try to improve on this. :hammer:
You know, I responded to a question in a way that most of you would have. It sounded to me like someone was considering taking a state exam, but was not comfortable using a lensmeter. Read the thresd! I advised them not to take the test. I was jumped on for being rude! I apoligised in two threads amd four PMs. Still getting jumped on I took out what the thin skinned thought was rude. Now you still can't let it go. Ill put it all back in as best I can.

I ask now who is being rude?

[OPTIDONN]

The people who know anything will be more than happy to help and share. On occasion you get these, well for lack of a better term IDIOTS who have picked up a few things and don't know how to explain it, so instead the try to make the person asking the questions feel stupid rather than show thier lack of knowledge.

[Johns]

You know, I responded to a question in a way that most of you would have.

You're not the first one to misinterpret a post. We've all done it.

Time to move on...:cheers:

[OPTIDONN]

You're not the first one to misinterpret a post. We've all done it.

Time to move on...:cheers:
Either I'm doing that right now or you just made a pass at me:p

[Johns]

Either I'm doing that right now or you just made a pass at me:p

Donn,

So what's "Donn"? Short for Donna?

Will you be insulted if I tell you that I wasn't making a pass at you ?:p

I'm sorry...I wasn't making a pass at you.:cry:




Now, if you'll please excuse me...I'm in the middle of the 49th verse of Kumbaya.

[OPTIDONN]

First the Bears and now you! Will this heart ever mend!:cry:

[Johns]

First the Bears and now you! Will this heart ever mend!:cry:


:D

[LKahn]

Some folks are just rude. I got over it. This is a place where some vent. Over time most mellow out or move on. Sometime the banter back and forth is entertaining. When someone over steps, the Optiboard community lets the person know.

This is a good place to learn and establish relationships in the optical trade. I appreciate it very much.

[DocInChina]

Some folks are just rude. I got over it. This is a place where some vent. Over time most mellow out or move on. Sometime the banter back and forth is entertaining. When someone over steps, the Optiboard community lets the person know.
This is a good place to learn and establish relationships in the optical trade. I appreciate it very much.

Well said. Sometimes I start to write in a thread and decide mid way through it’s not worth the trouble. Everyone ignores the jack***** anyway.

As Johns pointed out, sometimes the look and feel of the words on the board are misinterpreted by the reader. I think it is best to give the benefit of the doubt and assume the postings are not meant as an attack.

Doc

[DragonLensmanWV]

Another thing to consider is that after awhile, this gets to be sort of a family in here, and what family doesn't have the older brother or sister that makes your life a pain?
Just remember - they're tiny little words on a screen - you won't like all of them, so ignore the ones you don't. Just don't take it so personal.:bbg: